exceptions?
when someone is emotionally abusive to you, most people will tell you to cut ties with them. you don't need someone in your life who spends more time hurting you than helping you grow.
but what if that person is family? do the same rules apply?
what if that person has behaved so badly that they have nobody else in their lives but you? do you leave them to languish in their own self pity, opting the route of self preservation, and abandoning your own flesh and blood in their time of need? or do you put up with their abuse to try to show them that no matter what you will stick by them, no matter how bad their behavior, thereby being an enabler and telling them that it's ok to continue to hurt you?
- Miss Shigatsu @ 06/22/2008 11:26 AM -
you love me
I think if the situation calls for it, cutting ties with a family member is more than appropriate. Like in the case of abuse (sexual, physical, emotional). I say that it's not your responsibility that they have no one else in their lives - they have probably driven everyone else away.
People all over this country don't speak to certain family members for a myriad of reasons. Children move away, siblings get other lives, it happens. And it's not made into a huge deal other than maybe a teary why-won't-you-come-home-for-Christmas phone call. People have to live their own lives.
You can try to explain to the person, but they will never get it, only twisting it back around to being your fault and how you are abandoning them.
- Valette @ 06/22/2008 01:07 PM -